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Estrogen and Spite
EstrogenAndSpite@akkoma.questingbeast.fyi
Okay smut out of my system for now, time to be serious for a moment.
One thing that's so important about this...movement? Moment? I don't know what to call it. This overall desire for a web of old, going back to Web 1 or Web 0 or even just early 2000s. The movement to go back to an era before everything was advertisements and algorithms and apps and everyone using the same 6 sites. I'm going to call it the Pushback, for lack of a better term, because that's what it is - pushing back against the constant invasion of Web 3 and Advertisements and everything the internet has become.
It only works if we interact with each other.
Shares/Reposts/Repeats are a vital tool. Follow people who post things you like. Share the things they do so those that follow you can see it too. As @birze put it, #boostearlyboostoften and #followearlyfollowoften because if we don't, this just doesn't work.
Forget the algorithm and the numbers. Think of the human, or person, or creature, or entity. Imagine - or remember, depending on what you've been through - being in a crowd of people and saying something - and no one responds.
It sucks.
"Likes" and "Favorites" help avoid that to a degree, the digital equivalent of someone nodding their head in agreement when you talk. You know you're not being ignored, and it helps.
But those head nods mean so much more when they come from someone you know. And the only way to do that is to actually get to know people. Talk to them. Comment on their stuff. Share their stuff. And trust that people will do the same for you.
I'm personally trying to be better about this, too. Trying to resist the urge to just like and move on, trying to comment or at least share because sharing means if I don't have the energy to comment, I've upped the chances someone else might see it and comment.
Trying to make it so this - and anywhere I go - is a place where I'm doing my part to be an entity that interacts with other entities. A person that talks to other people. A creature who is not wandering the woods alone at night.
The algorithm faked this for us before. It pushed posts that served the interests of the corporate overlords of the 6 Sites, so the machine got us a simulacrum of human contact so we'd be rewarded for Doing The Thing that made us easier to be targeted with advertisements.
We don't have that here. There is no algorithm. Which is good! But it means we are the ones who drive the interactions here. No machines, no advertisers. Just people.
That's all. Just...make sure you're letting others know they're seen and heard, and make sure you're talking with them so they can see and hear you in return.
Built an internet of people talking.
It's the only way we thrive.
One thing that's so important about this...movement? Moment? I don't know what to call it. This overall desire for a web of old, going back to Web 1 or Web 0 or even just early 2000s. The movement to go back to an era before everything was advertisements and algorithms and apps and everyone using the same 6 sites. I'm going to call it the Pushback, for lack of a better term, because that's what it is - pushing back against the constant invasion of Web 3 and Advertisements and everything the internet has become.
It only works if we interact with each other.
Shares/Reposts/Repeats are a vital tool. Follow people who post things you like. Share the things they do so those that follow you can see it too. As @birze put it, #boostearlyboostoften and #followearlyfollowoften because if we don't, this just doesn't work.
Forget the algorithm and the numbers. Think of the human, or person, or creature, or entity. Imagine - or remember, depending on what you've been through - being in a crowd of people and saying something - and no one responds.
It sucks.
"Likes" and "Favorites" help avoid that to a degree, the digital equivalent of someone nodding their head in agreement when you talk. You know you're not being ignored, and it helps.
But those head nods mean so much more when they come from someone you know. And the only way to do that is to actually get to know people. Talk to them. Comment on their stuff. Share their stuff. And trust that people will do the same for you.
I'm personally trying to be better about this, too. Trying to resist the urge to just like and move on, trying to comment or at least share because sharing means if I don't have the energy to comment, I've upped the chances someone else might see it and comment.
Trying to make it so this - and anywhere I go - is a place where I'm doing my part to be an entity that interacts with other entities. A person that talks to other people. A creature who is not wandering the woods alone at night.
The algorithm faked this for us before. It pushed posts that served the interests of the corporate overlords of the 6 Sites, so the machine got us a simulacrum of human contact so we'd be rewarded for Doing The Thing that made us easier to be targeted with advertisements.
We don't have that here. There is no algorithm. Which is good! But it means we are the ones who drive the interactions here. No machines, no advertisers. Just people.
That's all. Just...make sure you're letting others know they're seen and heard, and make sure you're talking with them so they can see and hear you in return.
Built an internet of people talking.
It's the only way we thrive.
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froggebip :witch_hat_frog:
froggebip@lilypad.frogge.cafe
@EstrogenAndSpite I love this ❤️ Website League is so good right now. Let's all keep making it better and better!
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@EstrogenAndSpite @birze cheers, i'll drink to that
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Estrogen and Spite
EstrogenAndSpite@akkoma.questingbeast.fyi
@froggebip And I'm loving the energy here so far. It really feels like an extension of the best parts of cohost culture, but in a way that could endure far longer. I was trying to decide where my new digital home would be post cohost, and I think this is it.
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Estrogen and Spite
EstrogenAndSpite@akkoma.questingbeast.fyi
@chaiaeran @birze Salud, and enjoy the drink.
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@froggebip @EstrogenAndSpite this place definitely has Good Vibes, I love it
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Estrogen and Spite
EstrogenAndSpite@akkoma.questingbeast.fyi
@adam @froggebip Yeah, absolutely. The vibes are immaculate. I...really needed this today, and I'm so glad everyone's here.
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froggebip :witch_hat_frog:
froggebip@lilypad.frogge.cafe@EstrogenAndSpite @adam I have to admit, I had a lot of stress going into this day, but y'all have been a huge source of comfort by just being... really cool and enthusiastic.
All this earnestness is so nourishing 
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@EstrogenAndSpite @birze seeing some of the response to my final chost (a tiny bit on cohost itself but mostly from linking it (or just... mentioning it, and the response being surprising because I didn't expect anyone there had read it) elsewhere) made me really, genuinely happy. it hit how I wanted it to hit. wouldn't have known that if I'd just posted it to my blog and left it there, I think. all that to say:
agreed
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Ξ slightly askew
exerian@butisit.gay@froggebip @EstrogenAndSpite @adam i’m feeling all of this. now i’m just keeping my fingers crossed that i can keep my anxieties in check well enough for me to continue actually interacting with people because i really need community. 
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froggebip :witch_hat_frog:
froggebip@lilypad.frogge.cafe@exerian @EstrogenAndSpite @adam I hope you do! It's been really great working with you and I'm excited to socialize and stuff!
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Estrogen and Spite
EstrogenAndSpite@akkoma.questingbeast.fyi
@exerian @adam @froggebip it’s hard with anxiety but for what it’s worth, it’s not zero sum! If you go quiet for a bit because anxiety flared up, we’ll be here when you’re comfortable again!
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